Codependency or codependence is a tendency to behave in overly passive or excessively caretaking ways that negatively impact one's relationships and quality of life. It also often involves putting one's needs at a lower priority than others while being excessively preoccupied with the needs of others Now...does that sound like such a bad thing? I argued with my shrink. In the drama of my physical illness I almost forgot about my mental health. This was my second appointment with my therapist. Needs versus wants...desires versus happiness...independence versus co-dependance. I have always been a relative independent person. I was the middle child of three children. I was the diplomat...shuffling between two divorced parents living thousands of kilometers apart. I left home when I was 17 for Boston to study. At 22, I moved half way around the world to Australia. I became financially independent then. I started a new life...all alone and built a career, an urban family. To all intensive purposes I’m pretty independent..except when it comes to love. I’m a love addict.